Imagine that you can become a millionaire, you have all the money that you want, you can buy everything that you want and own everything that you ever dream of. Of course, becoming a millionaire is just an example. Maybe you’ve other dream and goal. Maybe you want to live a happy life and live healthily.
What if I tell you that you can achieve this kind of lifestyle all in 21 days?
What will you do then?
Pavlov, the man who discovered that you could make a dog salivate by ringing a dinner bell, said that it takes 21 days for anyone to develop a new habit. You’ll notice that if you move wastepaper basket to the other side of your desk, you’ll throw paper on the floor for about 21 days until you break your old habit and start a new one. If you move to a new home, it takes about 21 days before it starts feeling like home. If you start a new job, it takes roughly 21 days for it to feel as if it’s what you do for a living rather than a new job.
So here’s what you’re going to do in the following 21 days. You’re going to transform your life into someone that you always dream of, forever.
Before you make this decision, ask yourself, “Am I serious about changing my life? Do I really want to live a successful life?”
Once you’ve answered the above questions, it is time for you to be committed and ready to change your life. I bet that you knew what I’m going to ask you to do. Well, if you want to change your bad habit, you’ll have to do it consistently for the next 21 days.
If you want your goals to fully sink into your subconscious mind, you’ll have to write down your goals for the following 21 days. If you want to stop smoking, don’t smoke for 21 days and you’ll change the habit. If you’re going to lose weight by exercising every morning, wake up early and exercise for the next 21 days.
So if you get into the habit of looking at your objectives everyday for the next 21 days, you will have created a new habit, and what a difference it will make in your life.
Are you ready to change your life? In fact, you already know how you can change your life. Just do what you suppose to do in the next 21 days and you’ll form the new habit in your life. Here are some of the guidelines that will be able to help you in changing your life within 21 days…
1. Take 100% Responsibility
Within these 21 days, don’t make any excuses, don’t blame and don’t complain. Take 100% responsibility. This is the first thing that you must do to change your life. For things to change, you must first change yourself. Always remember this, nothing will change if you’re not changing.
You may say that you’re not responsible for the economic downturn. True, but once you take 100% responsibility, you’ll have the control over the situation. Instead of blaming the economy, you’ll learn how to cope with the obstacles you’re currently facing.
What I mean here is that you must change the response that you make in your life. For example, if you earned an extra $100, what you do with this extra $100 will be your response. You can choose to spend all of this extra money or you can choose to invest this $100 and increase your net worth. It is the response that you make that will change your life.
As you can see now, if you learn to take 100% responsibility, you’ll have the ability to control the situation and you are in charge of your own life. Therefore, in the following 21 days, don’t blame, don’t complain and don’t make any excuses in your life. Once you found out that you’re making any of these mistakes, stop immediately and focus on positive thoughts.
2. Focus In Where You Are Heading
You must live a directed life in these 21 days. So know what you really want to achieve in your life, write down your goals once every morning after you woke up and once every night before you sleep. You need to sink the idea of your goals into your subconscious mind and this is what you’ll have to do.
If you have your goals, you can then stay focused in your life and live your life in a direction. Goal setting is not a magic wand, it is something that allows you to be focused and know what you really want to achieve in your life. Can you imagine a life without goal?
Most people live a mediocre life because they don’t have a goal. They wake up every morning, get ready and go to work. They come back only after work, have dinner with their family, watch TV for the night and prepare to sleep. This is their day. Do you want to live this kind of life? It is a life without a clear direction of getting what you want.
Thus, make sure you follow through and write down your goals every morning and every night. By doing this for consecutive 21 days, you’ll experience huge change in your life after that.
3. Motivate, Learn and Improve
One of the reasons for causing inaction is because of the lack of motivation. If you don’t have the motivation, you’ll never take action. You need motivation to keep you going in your life, to achieve what you want, to earn more, to be a millionaire and to be successful.
Therefore, take a self-improvement book and read it for at least 15 minutes everyday. If you don’t have any, buy one.
You need to learn to grow.
If you’re not learning, you’ll stop to grow. Learning and keep on improving is crucial in bringing you to your ultimate success. Almost every successful person encourages you to learn because they know that learning will shape your mind, change your thinking and thus, change your life.
However, learning itself will not bring you what you want. You need to take action to get to where you want to be…
4. Take Action Everyday
Once you’ve your goals written down and your action plan created. It is time for you to follow through your action plan and achieve your goals. So take at least 3 action steps everyday for the following 21 days. You MUST do this. No matter how busy you are, take 3 actions even if you need to sleep late.
This is the most important habit you must develop during these 21 days. You must develop the habit of taking consistent action everyday. You know it very well that if you are just sitting right there doing nothing, you’ll achieve your goals.
Success is about getting things done. The more things you get them done, the more results you’ll receive. This is what separates a successful person from an ordinary one. Every successful person is a go-getter. So learn to be a go-getter in the following 21 days.
Resource: http://www.themillionairesecrets.net/how-to-change-your-life-in-21-days/
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Thursday, December 25, 2008
Sunday, December 21, 2008
How To Think and Act More Efficiently
Mental Heuristics
A heuristic is a "rule-of-thumb", advice that helps an AI program or human think and act more efficiently by directing thinking in an useful direction.Some of these heuristics are age-old wisdom, bordering on cliche, but most are actually helpful.
If you want something done, do it yourself
Comment: Obviously true, and doing it is usually very good for your self esteem. A surprising amount of work can be done this way, and experts are not always necessary. However, there is a risk of becoming overworked if you try to do everything yourself - we all need other people after all.Never procrastinate anything you can do right now
Comment: Very powerful. There are many things that can be fixed or solved with a minimum of effort, but are often pushed aside as unimportant. Unfortunately they won't go away, and in time the feelings of guilt for not having done them will make you even less likely of fixing the problems.When you have several things you could be doing and don't know which to do: Just do any one of them!
Comments: If you cannot decide between two or more possibilities, then there is a good chance that the differences don't matter. However, most people begin to hesitate in this kind of situation (Fredkin's paradox). If you are conscious of this, you can just choose one choice randomly or according to some standard method.Always assume that you will succeed
Comments: If you don't expect to succeed in an endeavor, then you will not do your best and will not notice possible solutions, while if you feel that you will eventually succeed you will concentrate all your power at the problem. Of course, there is no point in attempting what you cannot do, a certain amount of self-knowledge is always needed.If you can't find a solution, change the rules.
Comment: Remember that there are no no-win scenarios.If you cannot do anything about something, there is no point in worrying about it.
Comment: Worrying is stressful, and in most situations doesn't accomplish anything - it just wastes energy. Instead of worrying about things, either do something about them or find ways around the problem. One useful idea is to write down your worries on slips of paper, and then put them away in a box. Regularly, once a week or so, you open the box and see what you can do about the worries that are still relevant.Do not rely on conscious decisions for speed - Just Do It
Comments: The conscious mind is surprisingly slow, conscious choices and actions are delayed for a significant time (a reflex acts within some tens of milliseconds, an unconscious reaction to external stimuli circa 100 milliseconds and a conscious choice several seconds). The duty of the conscious mind is usually to inhibit rather than start action, and if you become too conscious of what you are doing in a tense situation you will hesitate or slow down.It is a good idea to learn to rely on your non-conscious mind, since our conscious mind is slow and has very low bandwidth while the other systems in our brains have a tremendous capacity and actually do most of the real work anyway.
Don't try to explain away your actions for yourself
Comment: While we often do things we do not want to explain our real motivations for before other people (out of fear of embarrassment, anger or loss of image), it is a bad idea to try to convince oneself that the motivation was anything different from what it was. It will only reduce your self-knowledge with deliberate misinformation, and it is often valuable to understand what motivations you have (even if you dislike them or would never admit them in public).Listen to your intuition, but do not believe it unconditionally
Comments: Intuitive or emotional thinking, analogies, "gut feelings" or "flashes of inspiration" can sometimes give fantastic new insights or show problems from a new direction. Unfortunately such thinking isn't always reliable, and quite often completely wrong! Such insights should never be accepted because you admire their beauty or they are intuitive, only because they fit with reality.Saturday, December 20, 2008
How to Reach Your Goals On AutoPilot
Think about the habits you have now and how they affect virtually every aspect of your life. Your weight and health are determined by your eating habits. Your relationships with people are determined by your social habits. Your success at work is determined by your work habits. You have sleeping habits that dictate how well you sleep. You have sexual habits. You even have buying habits; just take a look around your house and you will quickly see them. Our character, health and virtually every aspect of our lives are indeed determined by our habits.
If you ask ten people on the street what the word habit means, nine out of ten will tell you that a habit is a negative action that people do over and over again, like smoking, or procrastinating, or eating too much. Bad habits get all the press. Let's look at the results of just one bad habit: smoking. Every year, over 400,000 people lose their lives to smoking-related illnesses in the United States. Imagine then, the negative power that exists in just that one bad habit. It is staggering.
Now I want you to think about an even greater power, a power that can bring you success, health and happiness; a power for positive, permanent, and automatic personal growth: the power of positive habits. Let's look a little closer at the meaning of the word habit. Random House dictionary defines habit in this way:
Habit: An acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.
The important words in this definition are acquired and almost involuntary. Let me ask you a question. When is the last time you sat down and said to yourself, "Today I am going to add a new habit to my life?" I would venture to guess that you have probably never said those words. As you read this article, you will see how easy it is to add positive habits to your life and the great power they have to change it. Think about the words almost involuntary. This means the habit is so powerful in your mind that it is almost unstoppable! With respect to bad habits like smoking, procrastination, and overeating, this is very bad. But with positive habits, this is very, very good.
What is a positive habit? A positive habit is simply a habit that produces positive benefits, actions and attitudes you want to acquire and make a part of your life. Why is there such great power in positive habits to effect change? Because habits, by their very nature, are automatic. After a period of time they can become permanent.
So how do we go about adding new positive habits to our life? It's really quite easy. You simply begin repeating an action, attitude or thought process every day for at least 21 days. Research has shown that an action that is repeated for a minimum of 21 days is likely to become a permanent habit. Remember that positive habits have positive benefits and you will reap those benefits for as long as you maintain that habit. So now that we know what positive habits are, and how to acquire them, let's look at some simple positive habits that will help you reach your goals and get more out of life.
Positive Habit - Make it a habit to set goals
Since we are talking about goals, what better habit could you have than the habit of setting goals? Did you know that the most successful people all share the common positive habit of goal setting? A study was done to determine the importance of goal setting. College students who had gone on to achieve great success in business were asked to list their habits. The students who had made a habit of setting goals were in the top 3% of earnings in the population! It is almost impossible to overestimate the value of goal-setting as a positive habit. Goal setting is simple, yet 97% of the population never do it. By making goal setting a positive habit, you can start placing yourself in the top 3% of the population of successful people.
Here are some simple steps to help you start making goal setting a positive habit:
Step 1 - Define your goals, write them down, and be very specific; capture your goals on paper. It is amazing how many people never take the time to write down exactly what it is they want in life. Remember, you can't hit a target if you don't have one.
Step 2 - Determine what the time line is for reaching your goals; set specific deadlines for each goal.
Step 3 - Identify any obstacles that may stand in your way, list them, and state how you plan to overcome them.
Step 4 - Make a list of the people.
If you ask ten people on the street what the word habit means, nine out of ten will tell you that a habit is a negative action that people do over and over again, like smoking, or procrastinating, or eating too much. Bad habits get all the press. Let's look at the results of just one bad habit: smoking. Every year, over 400,000 people lose their lives to smoking-related illnesses in the United States. Imagine then, the negative power that exists in just that one bad habit. It is staggering.
Now I want you to think about an even greater power, a power that can bring you success, health and happiness; a power for positive, permanent, and automatic personal growth: the power of positive habits. Let's look a little closer at the meaning of the word habit. Random House dictionary defines habit in this way:
Habit: An acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.
The important words in this definition are acquired and almost involuntary. Let me ask you a question. When is the last time you sat down and said to yourself, "Today I am going to add a new habit to my life?" I would venture to guess that you have probably never said those words. As you read this article, you will see how easy it is to add positive habits to your life and the great power they have to change it. Think about the words almost involuntary. This means the habit is so powerful in your mind that it is almost unstoppable! With respect to bad habits like smoking, procrastination, and overeating, this is very bad. But with positive habits, this is very, very good.
What is a positive habit? A positive habit is simply a habit that produces positive benefits, actions and attitudes you want to acquire and make a part of your life. Why is there such great power in positive habits to effect change? Because habits, by their very nature, are automatic. After a period of time they can become permanent.
So how do we go about adding new positive habits to our life? It's really quite easy. You simply begin repeating an action, attitude or thought process every day for at least 21 days. Research has shown that an action that is repeated for a minimum of 21 days is likely to become a permanent habit. Remember that positive habits have positive benefits and you will reap those benefits for as long as you maintain that habit. So now that we know what positive habits are, and how to acquire them, let's look at some simple positive habits that will help you reach your goals and get more out of life.
Positive Habit - Make it a habit to set goals
Since we are talking about goals, what better habit could you have than the habit of setting goals? Did you know that the most successful people all share the common positive habit of goal setting? A study was done to determine the importance of goal setting. College students who had gone on to achieve great success in business were asked to list their habits. The students who had made a habit of setting goals were in the top 3% of earnings in the population! It is almost impossible to overestimate the value of goal-setting as a positive habit. Goal setting is simple, yet 97% of the population never do it. By making goal setting a positive habit, you can start placing yourself in the top 3% of the population of successful people.
Here are some simple steps to help you start making goal setting a positive habit:
Step 1 - Define your goals, write them down, and be very specific; capture your goals on paper. It is amazing how many people never take the time to write down exactly what it is they want in life. Remember, you can't hit a target if you don't have one.
Step 2 - Determine what the time line is for reaching your goals; set specific deadlines for each goal.
Step 3 - Identify any obstacles that may stand in your way, list them, and state how you plan to overcome them.
Step 4 - Make a list of the people.
How to use Desire to Achieve Your Goals
All of the great achievers throughout history have one thing in common. They have all been dreamers or desirers. If anyone is to achieve their goals in life then the first thing they need to do is establish what their desires are. That’s what makes people who are highly successful different from the rest – they know exactly what they want in life.
Simply wishing for success is insufficient. If anyone is to make any steps towards their definite objectives then they need to have a determined attitude, bordering on obsession, to fulfil that desire. It does not matter what your desire is. It may be a desire to excel in business, it could be a desire to learn a new skill, or it could involve a desire to change aspects of your personal life.
Whatever desire a person has, it will only be fulfilled if some of the following actions are taken. Firstly a person must realise what it is they need to make them content with their lives and give themselves step by step aims. Then they need to consider how much work they need to put in if they are ever to begin achieving those aims. Next they should set a deadline for reaching their final goal and then create a plan with a timeline highlighting how and when they will go about their tasks. This knowledge must be updated and read out regularly to keep a person on track to satisfying their desire.
All who achieve great things adopt a similar philosophy when setting themselves goals. The best writers, artists, sportsmen, inventors, musicians and scientists, along with many other pioneers of modern professions, all follow the process of putting their thoughts into action successfully when backed by a burning desire. Everyone, no matter what their chosen path in life may be, will start in the same situation with nothing but their thoughts and desires to spur them on.
Many people lack self confidence and are unwilling to set their aims higher through fear of failing. This sometimes develops due to people close to them discouraging them because they feel they are unrealistic with their goals and life choices. It may be that friends and family do not approve and so use ridicule to prevent their loved one from making what they feel is a mistake.
However, these people need to realise that we live in a world that continually throws us new and unique opportunities. The world only became modernised with the efforts of the creative and productive generations before us. Without the burning desire that these people had we might never have discovered the power to travel abroad by plane, communicate with the other side of the world by phone, order something from overseas by the net. With the development of technology and the industrialisation of the world, we now have more job opportunity and diversity than we have ever had.
The time for everyone to realise their dreams is now. We must continue to follow the same methods of pioneers before us by taking the courage to act upon our thoughts with conviction and fulfil our burning desires. It is important that all negative influences are avoided. There is no excuse for procrastination, and laziness. It is easy for people to say they want to achieve but in reality they will only start to realise their goals once they take those first steps in which they make a plan outlining the route to success.
Everyone has to start somewhere and not everything will go to plan. What is fundamental to success is that a person is not discouraged by initial failure. Most people who have claimed to have ‘made it’ in life will also be the first to admit that they had failures along the way. With every failure comes the chance to learn something new for another opportunity.
All achievements no matter how significant they are to others begin with a burning desire to get the result intended. In the human mind there is a power that is hard to explain. It is the ability to focus positive thoughts on achieving the thing that is wanted most. Success is sometimes a thing that at first seems impossible. When a burning desire in a person is so strong the word impossible loses significance.
Simply wishing for success is insufficient. If anyone is to make any steps towards their definite objectives then they need to have a determined attitude, bordering on obsession, to fulfil that desire. It does not matter what your desire is. It may be a desire to excel in business, it could be a desire to learn a new skill, or it could involve a desire to change aspects of your personal life.
Whatever desire a person has, it will only be fulfilled if some of the following actions are taken. Firstly a person must realise what it is they need to make them content with their lives and give themselves step by step aims. Then they need to consider how much work they need to put in if they are ever to begin achieving those aims. Next they should set a deadline for reaching their final goal and then create a plan with a timeline highlighting how and when they will go about their tasks. This knowledge must be updated and read out regularly to keep a person on track to satisfying their desire.
All who achieve great things adopt a similar philosophy when setting themselves goals. The best writers, artists, sportsmen, inventors, musicians and scientists, along with many other pioneers of modern professions, all follow the process of putting their thoughts into action successfully when backed by a burning desire. Everyone, no matter what their chosen path in life may be, will start in the same situation with nothing but their thoughts and desires to spur them on.
Many people lack self confidence and are unwilling to set their aims higher through fear of failing. This sometimes develops due to people close to them discouraging them because they feel they are unrealistic with their goals and life choices. It may be that friends and family do not approve and so use ridicule to prevent their loved one from making what they feel is a mistake.
However, these people need to realise that we live in a world that continually throws us new and unique opportunities. The world only became modernised with the efforts of the creative and productive generations before us. Without the burning desire that these people had we might never have discovered the power to travel abroad by plane, communicate with the other side of the world by phone, order something from overseas by the net. With the development of technology and the industrialisation of the world, we now have more job opportunity and diversity than we have ever had.
The time for everyone to realise their dreams is now. We must continue to follow the same methods of pioneers before us by taking the courage to act upon our thoughts with conviction and fulfil our burning desires. It is important that all negative influences are avoided. There is no excuse for procrastination, and laziness. It is easy for people to say they want to achieve but in reality they will only start to realise their goals once they take those first steps in which they make a plan outlining the route to success.
Everyone has to start somewhere and not everything will go to plan. What is fundamental to success is that a person is not discouraged by initial failure. Most people who have claimed to have ‘made it’ in life will also be the first to admit that they had failures along the way. With every failure comes the chance to learn something new for another opportunity.
All achievements no matter how significant they are to others begin with a burning desire to get the result intended. In the human mind there is a power that is hard to explain. It is the ability to focus positive thoughts on achieving the thing that is wanted most. Success is sometimes a thing that at first seems impossible. When a burning desire in a person is so strong the word impossible loses significance.
How to Transmute Sexual Energy to Help You Achieve More
To transmute means, in simple terms, to transfer or re-divert energy. In the context of sex being transmuted it means to transfer all energy that is wasted on thoughts and impulses that are governed by sex and not just the physical side to sex. It is the emotion of sex and its energy which when controlled can be used as strengths, and be focused on more productive activities.
When people harness the thoughts that drive them such as sexual desire they can learn to become more creative, develop their imagination and strengthen their will power. No matter what profession or service a person is involved in, all can benefit from this process. It takes a determined character for it to work because sexual desire is a natural emotion and so it should not just be suppressed or the energy may find a less desirable outlet. However, if it is expressed in a creative way it can enrich a persons mind.
It has been shown through scientific research that many successful people have very sexually driven minds. This is partially due to their ability to transmute their sexual energy and channel energy which would normally be wasted, towards more creative outlets. There are other stimuli that help the mind to be more creative and productive. Some may be seen as bad influences to people but that is really only if they overindulge in them. There is sex expression, love, desire for fame and fortune, friendships, fear and drugs, alcohol just to name a few. Sex expression can be seen as the more powerful because of its intensity and the way it forces thoughts to be put into action.
To transmute sexual energy takes will power and a different attitude to the subject of sex. Now that sex is not so much of a taboo subject, having a highly sexed personality is not seen as a bad thing and can be looked on positively. Sex emotion can only been seen in this way if it is used cleverly and not too often. Too much stimulation will have a destructive affect and take the fight out of a person.
If the sex is combined with love then the potential for a really productive period will be greater. When a person is motivated by love and the need to please their partner for extra reasons other than just sex then they will have the potential to achieve even more. Love sex and romance when combined allow people to discover things about themselves, giving them confidence and pushing the limits of their abilities.
Sex emotion can also be destructive if mixed with negative emotions such as jealousy. This has the potential to break people and take away all their motivation in life. Jealousy, along with other negative emotions, needs to be controlled especially in relation to sexual energy. This control comes through learning how to transmute sex energy.
When people harness the thoughts that drive them such as sexual desire they can learn to become more creative, develop their imagination and strengthen their will power. No matter what profession or service a person is involved in, all can benefit from this process. It takes a determined character for it to work because sexual desire is a natural emotion and so it should not just be suppressed or the energy may find a less desirable outlet. However, if it is expressed in a creative way it can enrich a persons mind.
It has been shown through scientific research that many successful people have very sexually driven minds. This is partially due to their ability to transmute their sexual energy and channel energy which would normally be wasted, towards more creative outlets. There are other stimuli that help the mind to be more creative and productive. Some may be seen as bad influences to people but that is really only if they overindulge in them. There is sex expression, love, desire for fame and fortune, friendships, fear and drugs, alcohol just to name a few. Sex expression can be seen as the more powerful because of its intensity and the way it forces thoughts to be put into action.
To transmute sexual energy takes will power and a different attitude to the subject of sex. Now that sex is not so much of a taboo subject, having a highly sexed personality is not seen as a bad thing and can be looked on positively. Sex emotion can only been seen in this way if it is used cleverly and not too often. Too much stimulation will have a destructive affect and take the fight out of a person.
If the sex is combined with love then the potential for a really productive period will be greater. When a person is motivated by love and the need to please their partner for extra reasons other than just sex then they will have the potential to achieve even more. Love sex and romance when combined allow people to discover things about themselves, giving them confidence and pushing the limits of their abilities.
Sex emotion can also be destructive if mixed with negative emotions such as jealousy. This has the potential to break people and take away all their motivation in life. Jealousy, along with other negative emotions, needs to be controlled especially in relation to sexual energy. This control comes through learning how to transmute sex energy.
Monday, December 15, 2008
How to become a millionaire in 5 minutes or less
Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth. - Muhammad Ali
The basic thing you need to figure out in order to become financial wealthy is this.
Find a way to serve many people.
If you can do this then, you will be rewarded.
Find a common problem that people have and solve it. Become a problem solver. Evolve your consciousnesses to a solution based mentality. Instead of seeing problems and giving up, commit to finding solutions.
People like people that solve their problems.
People love to pay other people to solve their problems. People love to pay other people to help them achieve their goals.
So what you must do is find solutions to problems that people have and find ways to help others achieve their goals.
Essentially you must provide a good or a service that people value.
Look at it like this, Bill Gates is one of the wealthiest men on the planet. How was he able to do this?
He provided a good and a service that a massive amount of people desired, thus he made massive amounts of money.
There is no easy way around this. The only way to achieve anything is to take massive action.
Massive action every single day is the only thing that will get you to where you want to go.
Many are deluded into believing in the claims of the law of attraction. These claims say that all you need to do is let the universe know that you is:
Desire millions of dollars
Visualize yourself with the millions
Then magically you will have it
This is basically just preying on the fact that everyone wants a quick and easy solution. It is also preying on the fact that many people want someone else to do the work for them.
This is why there are so many false law of attraction gurus popping up. Each one has their own special method guaranteed to manifest whatever you desire.
This is complete crap. This is doing a disservice to a great many people.
While I am actually a proponent and believer in the law of attraction, I know that it is not the only piece to the puzzle.
The techniques of the law of attraction are just the first step. These techniques are just preparation for the real work that most be done.
Of course you want to see yourself being successful. Of course you want to feel the feelings of having what you want. Of course you want to be clear in knowing what you want.
However these things alone will not get you to where you want to go. These things only become really powerful when you begin to take action.
The question that I want to raise is this.
If you believe that you will succeed and you can see yourself doing it, then why are you still so afraid to take action?
If you really believed and really knew that you would succeed, then taking action would be an easy thing to do. Yet, even with all of the law of attraction techniques in place, people still stagnant and stand still.
They refuse to take action because they are still afraid. To me this illustrates that the law of attraction techniques haven’t truly worked.
The point I am making is this. The law of attraction is powerful, but it will not get you all the way there.
The law of attraction combined with regular and massive action WILL get you there.
So what you need to do now is find ways that you can serve others. Find ways that you can add value to the lives of others. Begin to do this right now.
You will figure the rest out as you go along.
So do your visualizations, do your affirmations, and TAKE ACTION.
Friday, December 12, 2008
How to Change and Convert Your Friends and Family
There really is no way to convert or change anyone. Perhaps you could superficially influence another person to act in a different way temporarily, but the choice to create deep and lasting change can only be made by the individual.
The question that should be raised here is, “why in the first place would you want to change or convert anyone?”
I think that desires like this come from a place of personal insecurity. If one is completely confident and secure with in themselves, then they would have no need or desire to convert anyone.
If you are confident and sure of yourself then you have no need to convince anyone of anything because you already know. This deep inner sense of knowing is something that speaks louder than any words. This knowing communicates on a subtle and completely non-verbal level.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Who you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying.”
This quote basically sums up what I am referring to here. Who you are speaks louder than anything you could ever say.
So then what is the point of all of this? The point is looking at who YOU are and what YOU are being.
How do we really change and convert others?
The only way that this would be possible, if at all, is to be the example of whatever it is you have in mind.
Gandhi said “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
This is true because the only way for you to demonstrate that you actually know what you are talking about is to be it.
It is usually pretty easy to talk about something, but it is generally much more difficult to actually do it.
You must walk your talk.
This is the only thing that people will notice. This is the only way that people will really listen to what you have to say.
Actually, a funny thing happens when you begin “being the change” and “walking your talk.” You completely forget about trying to change other people. Instead, you are too busy being focused on what you are being and doing.
As a side effect, people usually begin asking YOU want YOU are up to. They begin to become attracted to you and wonder what you are about.
Rather than you harassing them and trying to change them, they are coming to you with interest and attention.
That being said, this will not be the case all of the time. People decide for themselves what they want and what they will do. This is just something that we have to accept. Not everyone wants to change; some people are completely happy the way that they are. This is completely perfect and okay.
But those who want what you have will surely be attracted to you. The process basically takes care of itself. All that you have to focus on is what you are being and what you are doing.
This speaks much louder than anything you could ever say.
In part 2 of this article I will go into greater detail on how to be an attractive, influential person.
The question that should be raised here is, “why in the first place would you want to change or convert anyone?”
I think that desires like this come from a place of personal insecurity. If one is completely confident and secure with in themselves, then they would have no need or desire to convert anyone.
If you are confident and sure of yourself then you have no need to convince anyone of anything because you already know. This deep inner sense of knowing is something that speaks louder than any words. This knowing communicates on a subtle and completely non-verbal level.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Who you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying.”
This quote basically sums up what I am referring to here. Who you are speaks louder than anything you could ever say.
So then what is the point of all of this? The point is looking at who YOU are and what YOU are being.
How do we really change and convert others?
The only way that this would be possible, if at all, is to be the example of whatever it is you have in mind.
Gandhi said “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
This is true because the only way for you to demonstrate that you actually know what you are talking about is to be it.
It is usually pretty easy to talk about something, but it is generally much more difficult to actually do it.
You must walk your talk.
This is the only thing that people will notice. This is the only way that people will really listen to what you have to say.
Actually, a funny thing happens when you begin “being the change” and “walking your talk.” You completely forget about trying to change other people. Instead, you are too busy being focused on what you are being and doing.
As a side effect, people usually begin asking YOU want YOU are up to. They begin to become attracted to you and wonder what you are about.
Rather than you harassing them and trying to change them, they are coming to you with interest and attention.
That being said, this will not be the case all of the time. People decide for themselves what they want and what they will do. This is just something that we have to accept. Not everyone wants to change; some people are completely happy the way that they are. This is completely perfect and okay.
But those who want what you have will surely be attracted to you. The process basically takes care of itself. All that you have to focus on is what you are being and what you are doing.
This speaks much louder than anything you could ever say.
In part 2 of this article I will go into greater detail on how to be an attractive, influential person.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
How to become a more attractive person
Interesting people are interested people. What does that mean? It means that interesting people are interested in something, they are passionate and enthusiastic.
For some people it could be music, cars, sports, cooking, philosophy, religion, etc. It could be anything.
To illustrate this see the following conversation:
Person A: How are you?
Person B: Fine.
Person A: So what have you been up to?
Person B: Nothing.
Person A: Well, what’s new with you?
Person B: Same old same old.
Now I’m sure that we’ve all met people like this and have experienced the pain of trying to have a conversation with someone like this.
I used this example to show how un-interesting people behave. In this instance an interesting person would have had a lot share and a lot of enthusiasm and passion behind it.
They were be excited and happy to share all of the new and exciting things happening in their life.
This is because people usually assume that what they find interesting everyone else does too, thus they usually are eager and willing to share.
So then what you should do is find something that you are interested in and really get into it. If you are already doing this, then devote more time to it.
But this doesn’t mean just go up to someone and start unloading on them. No, that would be rude, obnoxious, and annoying. The next would be….
Be interested in other people.
Everyone likes to feel important and that people care about the things they say and do. So the best way to do this is to be interested when someone is talking to you.
Ask questions, inquire, and genuinely have a desire to learn about whatever it is they are sharing with you. If it is a topic that they are really excited or passionate about, stay on this topic, learn as much as you can about it.
Everyone loves to talk about the things that they are most excited about and by allowing another person to do this while talking to you, they will soon associate these positives feelings with you, and thus they will be more likely to genuinely like you and be interested in whatever it is that you have to say.
Remember, the only way to get what you want, is to help others get what they want. And since everyone wants to feel good, to feel important, and to be listened to, why not facilitate this by really listening when someone is talking, by being interested, by asking questions, and by talking about the things the other person wants to talk about.
Not only will they be more likely to be interested in what you have to say, but you might even learn something new in the process.
How to become good at anything
The easiest way to become good at anything
Plain and simple the easiest way to be good at anything is to do it everyday.
If you want to become a concert pianist, do it everyday.
If you want to become a happier person, think happier thoughts everyday, do things that make you happy everyday.
Think about it like this, how often do you think Michael Jordan played basketball? Every once in awhile, maybe a few minutes here and there? No, he played every single day for hours and hours.
How often do you think Beethoven played music? Just tinkering randomly here and there? No, he played countless hours every single day.
That is really all there is to it, it is that simple. There is usually no difference between a pro and an amateur other than the amount of time, energy, effort, and practice put into developing a particular skill.
Even the greatest of the great was a beginner once; just you may be right now. However they made the decision, they made the commitment to put in the time and energy that got them to the level of mastery. Everyone starts somewhere; no one is born a master.
So wherever you are right now, no matter what your skill level, start today. Even if it’s only 15 minutes, that is better than nothing. Tomorrow repeat the same process, maybe even add another 10-15 minutes if you can.
Then the next day, repeat the process again. Keep doing this for a few months, staying consistent with your time and energy, and you will be amazed at the skill and dexterity that will develop with your new skill.
Just remember, every master was once a beginner, everyone starts somewhere, so I want you to start from right now, from this day forward. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, and surely you will soon be a master of your particular skill.
Plain and simple the easiest way to be good at anything is to do it everyday.
If you want to become a concert pianist, do it everyday.
If you want to become a happier person, think happier thoughts everyday, do things that make you happy everyday.
Think about it like this, how often do you think Michael Jordan played basketball? Every once in awhile, maybe a few minutes here and there? No, he played every single day for hours and hours.
How often do you think Beethoven played music? Just tinkering randomly here and there? No, he played countless hours every single day.
That is really all there is to it, it is that simple. There is usually no difference between a pro and an amateur other than the amount of time, energy, effort, and practice put into developing a particular skill.
Even the greatest of the great was a beginner once; just you may be right now. However they made the decision, they made the commitment to put in the time and energy that got them to the level of mastery. Everyone starts somewhere; no one is born a master.
So wherever you are right now, no matter what your skill level, start today. Even if it’s only 15 minutes, that is better than nothing. Tomorrow repeat the same process, maybe even add another 10-15 minutes if you can.
Then the next day, repeat the process again. Keep doing this for a few months, staying consistent with your time and energy, and you will be amazed at the skill and dexterity that will develop with your new skill.
Just remember, every master was once a beginner, everyone starts somewhere, so I want you to start from right now, from this day forward. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, and surely you will soon be a master of your particular skill.
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